Early in life, you picked up rules about how to fit in. A few were said out loud. Most were learned from what got approval and what caused friction. Those rules are still quietly shaping what you say yes to, what you avoid, and what you never quite let yourself have. Often, they sound like:
For men who want more out of life · One-to-one facilitated coaching, live online
You're not stuck. You're just running on rules you never agreed to.
A twelve-month, one-to-one facilitated coaching programme for men ready to get clear on what they want, question what's been steering things, and choose differently from here.
Facilitated by
Cartia
10+ years experience·2,600+ hours of coaching, counselling and facilitation·international·online
- One-to-one
- Live online, worldwide
- 12 months
- 3 sessions a month
- Built around your life
Recognise any of these?
- You keep chasing the next thing, but somehow it never feels like enough.
- From the outside you look like you've got it together. From the inside, it doesn't always feel that way.
- You make your own choices, every day. But who's really calling the shots?
- Something you want becomes possible, and suddenly you find reasons not to pursue it.
- You've got plenty to be grateful for. Are you still allowed to want more?
- There's a quiet feeling that there must be more to life than this.
The programme
The Permissions Pathway
The Permissions Pathway brings those hidden rules into view, so you can question what still serves you and live from a clearer, freer place. It's built on six permissions most men hold back on without realising it.
Permission to…
01
Take up space
02
Have your own view
03
Want something for yourself
04
Ask for what you need
05
Go after what you want
06
Let yourself receive
Liberation isn't loud. It's the moment you realise you were never required to live by the old rule.
Areas of focus
Where the permissions show up in real life
Communication and boundaries
Saying what you mean, asking for what you need, and holding your line without guilt or over-explaining.
Confidence
Trusting your own judgement enough to act on it, rather than waiting to feel certain first.
Self-regulation
Staying grounded under pressure, instead of shutting down, reacting or checking out.
Personal power
Taking back the choices and energy you've been handing over to other people, situations or old habits.
Emotional ownership
Owning how you feel, instead of handing that responsibility to someone else.
Owning your life
Living by standards you've chosen, keeping what serves you from your upbringing, and building a life that's yours.
What men walk away with
Freedom to want what you want, go after it, and get it.
- Say what you mean, ask for what you need and let yourself receive it
- Set boundaries without the guilt, over-explaining or need for approval
- Take up space, have an opinion and let yourself be heard
- Handle rejection and self-doubt without letting them run your decisions
- Know what you want, and stop talking yourself out of it
- Build a life that feels more and more like yours, because you're choosing it
What men say
Kai
“I finally understand why I kept shutting down in arguments.”
Jayden
“I'm not reacting the same way. I feel more clear, more in control of my choices, and genuinely liberated from a lot of the stuff I'd been carrying for years.”
Tyler
“I don't have to carry everything and everyone now. I'm clearer about what's mine to deal with and what isn't, and that's been a massive weight off my shoulders.”
Ryan
“I'm calmer without feeling passive. I communicate better, and I don't feel like I need to prove myself the way I used to.”
Dan
“For years I knew what I wanted but kept finding reasons not to go after it. Now I just do it, and things are falling into place in a way they never used to.”
Craig
“The fight's gone out of it. I'm not pushing against myself anymore, I'm just getting on with building the life I want.”
Kai
“I finally understand why I kept shutting down in arguments.”
Jayden
“I'm not reacting the same way. I feel more clear, more in control of my choices, and genuinely liberated from a lot of the stuff I'd been carrying for years.”
Tyler
“I don't have to carry everything and everyone now. I'm clearer about what's mine to deal with and what isn't, and that's been a massive weight off my shoulders.”
Ryan
“I'm calmer without feeling passive. I communicate better, and I don't feel like I need to prove myself the way I used to.”
Dan
“For years I knew what I wanted but kept finding reasons not to go after it. Now I just do it, and things are falling into place in a way they never used to.”
Craig
“The fight's gone out of it. I'm not pushing against myself anymore, I'm just getting on with building the life I want.”
Scott
“I used to replay decisions in my head for days. Now I know what I want, I make the call and back myself. I feel so free, it's unreal.”
Gary
“I'm not waiting for permission. I'm making decisions I've been putting off for years because they're actually what I want. That feels bloody free.”
Luke
“I can finally say what I need without feeling selfish for having needs in the first place. That's changed my relationship more than I expected.”
Oli
“Now I'm not just living a good life. I'm building one that actually feels like mine.”
Richard
“I stopped getting in my own way. The things I want are actually happening now.”
Scott
“I used to replay decisions in my head for days. Now I know what I want, I make the call and back myself. I feel so free, it's unreal.”
Gary
“I'm not waiting for permission. I'm making decisions I've been putting off for years because they're actually what I want. That feels bloody free.”
Luke
“I can finally say what I need without feeling selfish for having needs in the first place. That's changed my relationship more than I expected.”
Oli
“Now I'm not just living a good life. I'm building one that actually feels like mine.”
Richard
“I stopped getting in my own way. The things I want are actually happening now.”
About Cartia
A facilitator, not a fixer
I facilitate a process where you notice what's shaping your choices, question what still serves you, and move toward what you want. Counselling taught me how to listen. Coaching is how we move you forward.
- 2,600+ hours of live coaching, counselling and facilitation with clients internationally
- Former independent counselling practice
- Trained through the Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors (AIPC)
- Cognitive Behavioural Therapy Practitioner and Certified Life Coach
- Brings counselling insight and practical, future-focused coaching together
Who this is built for
- You're ready to question rules you've been running on for years.
- You're curious about what's really been steering your choices.
- You'll be honest with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable.
- You're ready to go all in and take what comes up into real life.
- You're open to new ways of thinking, including looking within through mindfulness.
Not the right time if
- You're more focused on what others should change than what you can.
- You want someone to hand you a fix without doing anything yourself.
- You're not open to hearing another point of view.
- You're not ready to invest in yourself right now.
How it works
What's included
Four steps. Twelve months. Here's exactly how it runs.
That's 36 sessions across the year, shaped around what's happening in your life, not a fixed script.
1
Start here
Hit "Start here" and answer a few questions so I get a sense of what you're looking for. Then we have a real conversation and see whether the programme is the right fit for both of us.
2
Three live sessions a month
Two one-hour sessions live over video, working through what's happening in your life right now, plus a 45-minute check-in to track progress and adjust course.
3
Between sessions
You apply it in real life, with up to 10 messages a month for anything that comes up in between, and bring the rest to the next session.
4
Upgrade if you want more
Want extra attention? Add a session pack (10 sessions) to move to weekly live sessions, or a messaging pack (50 extra messages). Use what you need, when you want it.
$799 USD per month
or $7,990 USD paid upfront for the full twelve months, saving $1,598
What's included
What's included, and what's not.
- One-to-one sessions built around your life
- The Permissions Pathway
- The UNLEARN Protocol to use during and beyond the programme
- Up to 10 messages a month between sessions
- Mindfulness and self-connection practices
- A confidential, facilitated space
- Invitations to master classes on specific themes after you complete the programme
- Group sessions with strangers
- A fixed curriculum you can fall behind on
- Generic advice that isn't built around your life
- Homework that sits in a drawer unread
- Diagnoses or labels you didn't come here for
Straight answers
Questions men ask
Do I need to know exactly what I want to work on?
Not at all. You might already know what you want to change, or just have a sense something needs to shift. Either way, we start with what's happening in your life right now and work out where to go from there.
Is this one-to-one or a group?
Completely one-to-one. No group, no sharing with strangers, no trying to fit your life into someone else's programme. Everything happens live over video, at times arranged around your schedule and time zone.
How is this different from therapy?
This is facilitated coaching, not therapy. We use what you notice about your own patterns to get clear on what you want, then work out the practical steps to make different choices in real life. Counselling insight shapes how I listen, but the focus stays on where you're going.
This isn't a substitute for treatment of a diagnosed mental health condition. If you need more specialised support, I'll be upfront about that and help point you in the right direction.
What if my life is already going well?
Then you're not starting from a problem. You're starting from possibility. You can have a good relationship, a successful career and a life that looks pretty solid, and still wonder: is this what I want? What else is possible? What's next for me?
Does it matter if I'm single or in a relationship?
Not at all. This isn't a relationship programme: it's about you. Single, partnered, dating, separated or somewhere in between, we work with your life as it is and where you want to take it.
Why a female facilitator?
Fair question. Working with a woman can offer a perspective you might not get from another man, particularly around relationships, communication and how you show up with the people closest to you. You don't need someone else's version of a good life. You need clarity on your own, and the confidence to go after it.
What does it cost?
$799 USD per month, covering two one-hour sessions and a 45-minute check-in each month. Or pay upfront for the full twelve months at $7,990 USD and save $1,598. Up to 10 messages a month between sessions are included. Weekly sessions and extra messaging are available as upgrade packs if you want more.
Is there a lock-in period?
The programme runs over twelve months, because that's what creates real, lasting change. There's a three-month minimum so the work has time to land. After that, you can stop with 30 days' notice. If you pay upfront, that's a commitment to the full twelve months.
Ready when you are
See what's been steering you. Then take the wheel.
Awareness gives you the freedom to choose what you want now, instead of reacting from what you learned back then. You don't need to know where this leads. You just need to be willing.